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Mommy and Me Group Rant

I tried going to a "mom and baby group", what an utter waste of time. I only ended up getting pissed off. All of the other moms were "SAHMs" (stay at home moms) and spent the whole time bitching about how hard they work. I wanted to sympathize, so I tried to see what they were talking about. Ok, so you keep the house clean, cook dinner, take care of the baby, and do laundry. And what else? Oh yeah, NOTHING! I do all that plus work full time, pay the bills, do the grocery shopping, and keep the cars running (oil changes, routine maintenance, etc.). I just wanted to stand up and scream "WHAT ARE YOU TALKING ABOUT?!?!? YOU HAVE IT SO EASY!"  I work at least 45 hours per week (that's minimum folks) and drive almost an hour to work every day.  All my days are at least 9 hours long, some are longer and I am on my feet all day on concrete.  I get screamed at by snotty rich people and spend my days hauling boxes, carrying merchandise and loading and unloading trucks.  I would love to just stay at home with Jordynn every day, that would be FANTASTIC.
Some of these women actually have maids that come to clean their house because they "don't have time" WHAT? You mean you can't get your fat ass off the couch to dust a little? It's not that you don't have time, it's that you don't have the motivation. I would trade places with any of them in a heartbeat.
Long story short, I won't be going back.

 



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I know how you feel. I also work 9 hours a day. Most of the moms around me are SAHMs and always plan events during the DAY during the WEEK. I can't stand mommy groups because of this. I'm sorry, I have to work during the days to provide for my child. I make $9 more per hour than my hubby so I'm sort of stuck. My aunt is a SAHM. She gets online to instigate me by saying things like 'oh I feel better, I just woke up from a nap' or 'ahh I just took a nice bath while the kids are at school'. SHUT UP! She knows it annoys me for her to brag about those kinds of things. Her house is always a mess. I mean like nothing is ever done, it's not like she started dishes or started laundry. You can see she hasn't done a dang thing accept go to Walmart and make dinner. I'd love to be a SAHM. I wouldn't complain about cleaning and cooking and all that (which we all do ANYWAYS AFTER WORK). Gahh... If I only had $80,000 to pay off my mortgage. People just don't know how good they have it I guess.
LOL! I hear ya! I know exactley what you mean. At one point in time , I was a single mom with three kids, and no help. I literally mean, I had like no help. I worked full time, and have also gone to groups like MOPS, not knocking MOPS, it's a great program, but, I felt like an outsider. THey all stayed at home, and I worked my hind end off. I know what it's like to work hard, and get treated like crapola at your job. I also had to work like that up until I delivered my son. I started working from home though, and I am so less stressed out. What I do, is something that you can do even while you have another job. It's really pretty simple. Yes, I make money, yes I do have to work, but it's different. It's refreshing to me, to have found something that is not like any other work at home business I had done. I don't BS, I don't try to convince someone to ever do something they don't have it in their heart to do, but I do enjoy helping other people have a better life. Send me a message if you'd like, i would like to chat with you some more.
It's totally ironic here, but I've found, from my own experience here, that the SAHMs who complain the loudest and do the most condemning of WAHMs or WOHMs are the very ones who can afford maids and have hubbys who make the big bucks that allows them the luxuary of staying at home. Interesting that when I've taken a day off to do some things for myself, I see them in their tennis clothes in Starbucks or the local market. They're the same ones who looked down on those of us who work and can't make the during school hours "mothers' tea" or that look with distain when I can't volunteer for handing out lunches or working in the school cafeteria cause I work.

Course, that's just the observation I've personally had over the last 18 years.