Asked on 24th April 2008  |  3 replies

Answered on 25th May 2008:

Kat, JDaffron, Michelle, First let me say that each and every response has given me wonderful insight to the issue. JDafrron- thanks for re-reading my post...and yes, it's very possible that I am being hormonal- it's something I've learned to take into account when I am acting paranoid, and I am clearly feeling insecure about this issue- it's the reason I am reaching out to others who might view the situation with a more clear head than I am able at the moment. LOL!! I really appreciate your insight about the real world vs the ideal world students tend to live in..actually, I can remember seeing the world in a similar way when I was a student! It helps to see it from that perspective. And BTW- you crack me up with giving your mother credit and cringing (I do the same thing!!) Michelle- Yes! Now that I think about it... I am pretty sure than none of the teachers are actual parents. I'd be shocked if they were since they are all so dedicated to this program at an abundance of hours, they wouldn't have the time to give to their own families in the way they'd expect us to. Actually, I happen to be very good friends with one of the professors in the program through a gymboree class we met (her twins are my sons age) and she has cut way back on her lectures since becoming a mother. She's also comfided in me that since becoming an actual parent herself, its as if nothing she has raught for years applies to anything in real life that she's experienced...I only realized that now since reading your post. Thanks for that! :) Kat, hearing your perspective from both ends was really eye-opening! I am a very passionate mother and I have my strengths and weakenesses just like everyone else in the world. One of my greatest characteristics (if you don't mine me tooting my own horn) is my own ability to recognize where I fall a little short, and here it is - I've ALWAYS been a senstive person who tends to take things personally where I shouldn't, and very often I'll let others dictate what is right and wrong long before I look into my own heart and think, "wait a second...I am not sure I am being treated fairly here..." The reason I just gave you this description is because I hate that I am being lumped in with these other parents that don't contribute or don't care. I have a lot of empathy for teachers, the thankless job that they do, and the messed up systems that they all have to be a part of. I guess, I resent that I am being punished by them for how other parents might treat them, or not appreciate them. I feel like I am being prejudged for being... I don't know... IMPERFECT?? I DID hold these teachers in VERY high regard, and as a new mother, I always worry that my instincts are off.I am constantly looking to learn from others who may know something that I don't. I actually thought - maybe they DO know better, and they'll shed light for me as well as teaching HIM. I'd hoped to learn from their perspecitive as well. I'd hoped for them to include me more- or shed light on the areas I'd been struggling in (my son is a terrible 2 and can be quite a handful at times- perhaps they see this and wonder what I am doing at home to cause this?) I guess that is why I am reaching out to you ladies. I am trying to figure out if this is just a way that teachers ACT in general. or if I am missing something here? Is it possible I am doing something wrong that makes their job more difficult? You ladies have all been wonderful at helping me to see their perspective.. Thank you!

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