Answered on 4th October 2007:

For many years I was the primary breadwinner but recently the roles have reversed and he is the primary breadwinner. Basically, we make similar salaries but I still manage to take on the majority of child care, household and financial planning responsibilities. My husband is fine when asked (told) to do something but I do get resentful when I'm the one that needs to anticipate, plan and orchestrate our daily living. In other words, it takes a lot of energy to be the one that knows birthday parties need to be planned, Dr's/dentist/ortho/eye dr.appointments need to be made, gifts need to be bought, clothes need to be bought, etc... So while I love my job and earning a good salary - I do get overwhelmed with the responsibility of raising three kids and maintaining a healthy marriage - it's not easy.

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