Welcome CEOMommy!

I'm glad to meet you. I'm so with you on not listening to people who think you can spoil a baby with love and attention. Alas, I feel surrounded by them (lol). I'm a moderator here at Work it, Mom! so please feel free to let me know if there's anything I can do for you:). Here are a couple places that you might like to check out around here.
http://www.workitmom.com/group_newtoworkitmom
http://www.workitmom.com/group_toddlertalk
http://www.workitmom.com/blog