Asked on 24th January 2008  |  3 replies

Answered on 2nd April 2009:

I definitely felt this way, especially at that age when they start actually DOING things, and not just eat-sleep-poop! In fact, I think it took me a good 2 years before I was "over" the guilt and "I miss him" feelings completely. (Well, not completely, but you know what I mean.) What I finally realized -- my first is now 4.5 and my second is 13 mos, both in daycare since 12 weeks -- is that we only know the time we ARE with them. When we ARE together, if the kids do something new like take a step or clap hands, then THAT's the "first time". Every laugh or giggle with me is mine to own, to cherish. I try not to worry about what the daycare teacher gets to see, or what I'm missing. It's hard, and yeah, I do think I'll always look back and wish I'd had more time with them when they were little, but guess what? ALL parents wish that, whether they stayed at home with them or not. You'll be okay. Hang in there. :) (((hugs))) p.s. if you can, sometimes, just take a day off and hang out with your little guy. *I* need to do this more often!

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