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Do you think it's ridiculous to marry for money? Should it be a factor at all?”

Asked by The Work It, Mom! Team on 15th December 2007

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An honest answer. NO, of course not. I'm not saying that actually do marry for money.. but that has to be a consideration when getting married, you will only burden yourself if you marry someone who cannot put food on the table right? It will also be a cause of many many many fights. So, you might want to get married to a guy who can provide for you and your children. He might not be a rich guy but make sure he works and works hard and has a plan for a future where you can both live as comfortably as you possibly can

Flag as inappropriate Posted by Cynthia on 13th January 2008
Finances are the number one reason sited for divorce. I would think if two people have different standard of living then they will not be happy their whole marriage. In fact I think kids would stress this further. I can't imagine having to go to a shelter or food bank to feed my kids. Yes, money is a factor. People who say money-carrier is not important might be happy with any standard of living. Money pays the doctor, pays the bills, pays for vacation & pays for healthier food. How could money not be important? Even Amish keep a stash of cash on hand for emergencies.

Marring for big money and only money? Well think of it this way if one wants to marry beauty the other money...maybe they should be together. It would not bother me.

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Flag as inappropriate Posted by Tara on 20th December 2007
I definitely didn't marry for money - and in a way I wish I had... Not that I don't love my husband - I do, but some financial security would definitely be nice. I wish we'd talked more about our future plans and made sure that we were on the same page financially speaking. We made some bad decisions each before we married and together afterward, and we're still working through the consequences of those now.

Flag as inappropriate Posted by Deb - Mom of 3 Girls on 18th December 2007
Financials should also always be considered. Should it be the determining factor NO. There are a variety of things to be discussed and put on the table when considering marriage; family values, religion, family traditions, method of raising children and of course money. No one can deny one of the main reasons why couples divorce is money, so it's obviously a critical part of a marriage. Love alone doesn't pay the bills, but to marry solely for money is a bit shallow.

Flag as inappropriate Posted by GeekyCyberMom on 18th December 2007
i think marrying someone for a single reason is silly, regardless of what that single reason is!! however, if money is one of the many reasons you are marrying, why not? it should be a consideration and is a part of the person as a whole. if it is important to you to live a certain lifestyle and you know that is part of what makes you happy and this person can provide that AND has other qualities you want in a lifemate (be they love, looks, religion, whaterver!) then i dont see the problem with it.

Flag as inappropriate Posted by Kate on 17th December 2007
ridiculous-
while money can help your material goals, it is not a substitute for love, companionship, similar values- the factors that truly hold a relationship together

Flag as inappropriate Posted by MsMD310 on 17th December 2007
I definitely did not marry for money (my husband teaches school). But, I will say that the fact that he had a career was a huge plus for me. I really loved (and still do) that he is a hard worker, and that he is able to make enough to be the breadwinner for our family during these early years. So no, money isn't what you marry for, but there may be certain traits that could be found more often in rich guys...maybe?

Flag as inappropriate Posted by mamajama on 17th December 2007
I think finances should be a consideration when choosing a mate--within reason. I think it's not a good idea to enter into a marriage pact where there is no love. Similarly, it's also not a good idea to marry (or continuously date) a guy who doesn't have his act together in regard to his money. I say this all should be taken into consideration within reason, because I'm the first to admit that I've had my money issues in the past, and was blessed to be with a man who stuck with me through my hard times of some lost jobs due to the internet dot com bust of the early 2000s. The thing there is...it's in the past, I got through it. We all make our mistakes, and have our instances of poor judgement. Good or bad, you do the best you can with what you've got, and try and make good decisions going forward.

Flag as inappropriate Posted by Christine on 16th December 2007
Marrying for money is as ridiculous as staying at a miserable job for the money. Money doesn't buy happiness!

Flag as inappropriate Posted by JP on 16th December 2007
yes, i think that would be a waste of a marraige.

Flag as inappropriate Posted by GirlswithGoals on 16th December 2007
My parent’s friend once said to me- Victoria: It's as easy to fall in love with a rich guy as with a poor guy! I thought it was really funny.... I think the whole notion of marrying somebody for money is ridiculous... BUT - a lot of women do it.... It just depends on what's important to you... If all you care about is money and not your relationship/interaction with your future husband then it's ok i guess... I just think there are a lot of components to evaluate besides money that are key in marriage...

Flag as inappropriate Posted by Victoria on 16th December 2007
I think I could learn to love someone with ALOT of money.....Just kidding. Yes I think its ridiculous to marry for money-you marry for LOVE-remember love? Then you work together as a team to make money and figure out expenses. If you have love everything else will work out just fine-I truly believe this. Yes there will be stress and a little arguing but you have each other. Right?

Flag as inappropriate Posted by shelly on 16th December 2007