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Have you faced your past lately? Have you run into an ex-boyfriend, ex-friend who broke your heart? How did you react. Did you get nauseous, short of breath? ”

Asked by Vera Babayeva on 7th April 2008

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Yes. I have been thinking about my past. I moved back to the small town I grew up in. I see people and am reminded of years gone by often. I had so many wonderful experiences. But, the thing that really bothers me is the freedom I had and some of the (bad) choices I made while in my teenage years. My husband and I have an eleven year old daughter, being raised in the same small community I grew up in. She will be a teenageer in just a few years. I am challenged with trying to give her the freedom she needs and at the same time protecting her from what I know is out there without driving her away. I love this small town, it is a community of caring people protected from many dangers. But along with that, our teens are still tempted with underage drinking and sex. How do I explain to my daughter the importance of making better choices than those I made?

Flag as inappropriate Posted by work-at-home mom on 8th April 2008
I have been married twice and see my 2nd one all the time, I could care less about it, THe feelings are not there I dont think they were there before Because of How the relationship transpired. Now if I saw the 1st. I would freak, TOo many and memories, and Cnat go there...I have 4 kids from three different men and it is all good.

Flag as inappropriate Posted by Kimberlylangert on 8th April 2008
Before I was married I had a child out-of-wedlock with someone I thought I was going to marry. We picked out an engagement ring and made plans before things unexpectedly turned sour. I was extremely hurt and it took quite a toll on me physically and spiritually for about 2 years after. I would get short of breath, nauseated and I also lost about 78lbs. I moved 800 miles away from this situation and my family. These reactions occurred before I realized this person was not who God wanted for me and b/c I was not living in God's will.

When I turned my life over to God there were some real epiphany's about this person and things were revealed to me about how this person would have destroyed my life. Of course hind sight is always 20/20 and I'm so much more a better person for not staying with him. I thank God everyday that His will was stronger than mine. He is not in my child's life either, but lives rather close. I'm a truly thankful that he isn't and that my husband is the role model for my child.

God does things for our own good when he takes people out of lives that we once thought was good. I don't regret those things anymore or let it take a physical toll on me.

Flag as inappropriate Posted by caramelsugarberry38 on 7th April 2008
There was a guy who broke my heart 12 years ago and have not seen him since. There was no closure and there are times I still think of the "what ifs" if we ended up together. Just a year ago, I looked him up on the internet and found his friendster page (sort of my space) that has his pics of him, his wife and his daughter (same age as mine). During those 12 years I would wish the back of my mind that we're going to be together in the end, but after looking at the pics I came to a realization that its never gonna happen, and I guess its all for the best, my hubby is a great husband and my daughter is the best, I feel very lucky to have them both, I wouldn't change a thing about my life right now.

Flag as inappropriate Posted by Mia on 7th April 2008