How hard should I fight for the home I have made with someone? or should I just let him go? He wants Our relationship, but not my kids. He says he needs to be closer to his. We are 20 minutes away from his ex. and he sees them every weekend and several times though out the week. I am not able to support myself financially, due to his changes to my income when we cohabitated. Sorry for the long story, but I tried to concise it. I am stressing!!!!

Good luck!

If you even have to ask this question, you already know the answer. The fact that he doesn't want your kids is a BIG RED FLAG. You're a package deal and if he's not willing to accept that, get rid of him. He's NOT worth it.

If you have to fight to keep a relationship that is not committed in marriage already - then there are two things to consider.

1) The fact that this is a hidden red flag that has now been revealed. This was always a hidden issue for him and there was a reason it wasn't initially revealed to you up front. Time is always our best friend. It needed a situation like this to come out into the open for you to realize that this person maybe didn't have the same vision for the family as you did. This was inevitable and should be welcomed and not fought against. It's worth the heavy consideration as it involves your children and their future well-being in the eyes of someone you are considering to spend the rest of your life with. Your decision to remain with him knowing what you know now will have a lasting effect on them and their relationship with you. His desires should be embraced by you as an indication or (red flag) about his level of committment (or lack thereof) to you and your children - as you are all one unit.

2) If you love something set it free - if it comes back to you, it's yours. If it doesn't - it never was. This may sound corny and old, but it is full of wisdom. I lived it myself. I had to set someone free at the most inopportune time of my life and boy did it hurt. I lost my job, my apartment, my dignity, and my financial support. I moved 800 miles away to get away from the situation and had no money or idea when anything was going to come together for me and my children. The bottom literally was pulled out from underneath me and guess what? I also had 2 small children in tow ( including a newborn). I speak the truth when I say God made a way out of no way. He made me realize through the situation that this person was not for me and that with (His) help I was more than able to get back on my feet again. And I did in a big way. I realized God moved this old person out of my way so He could make room for the man I now call husband (who accepts my children.)

With all the hardship I felt I had at that point it was hard to see the forest for the trees. I empathize with your feelings right now. But, b/c I stepped out on faith and triumphed, I am not afraid of trials and red flags anymore. I embrace them as a way for God to communicate HIS will for me and as an opportunity for me to get in line with HIM. Even if it means it will reveal my vulnerabilities. That's the whole idea behind personal and spiritual growth. I know now those moments are always teaching moments, so I embrace them and don't fight against them. It allows God to work on my behalf much quicker than if I fought against it all the time. I've learned to let go and let GOD.

Don't stress about this situation. If you have to worry, fight or stress - there's your answer. Let him go. You have God, and your children. They are all the motivation you'll ever need to move on with your life and find the extra job that will bridge the financial gap that his money once provided for. This is the precise moment telling you that there is something else out there for you - just tell God what your need is and ask the universe and TRUST they will answer. But, God no, don't stress over this man, your house or his money - that only brings about more stress and confusion when you need to harness your energy to act and pray.

Phillipians 4:12 tells us, "I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me."
Hebrews 11:1 says, "Faith is substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen."
Hebrews 4:16 says, "Let us therefore come bodly unto the throne of grace, that we may obtain mercy, and find grace to help in time of need."
Romans 8:18 also says, "...the sufferings of this present time are not worthy to be compared with the glory which shall be revealed in us."

There is something else for you that is being revealed through this situation. Openly seek it and embrace the wonderful change that is to come. Don't revel in the sufferings of the truths you've just found out about in your mates desires and how they may adversely affect your house or your bank account. Those are material things that can be replaced. Your children can't. He knows this and he's not letting his feelings for you get in the way of his obligation to his children. Let him go and you will have opened a new pathway for greater things.

Take care and continue to pray on finding a way to get more money. Look to God on that not your boyfriend.

I don't understand the question. I agree with everyone else, what is there to consider? If he doesn't want to accomadate your kids (your family), then there should be nothing to discuss. I would take on a second job before I would be with someone like that. Do not stay for him for the money, it is not good for your family.

Oh and please forgive my brutal honesty but shame on you for even CONSIDERING trying to maintain a relationship with someone that is not interested in your kids. THEY are your priority.