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My daughter hates homework. It's a struggle every night. While we know that it is too much and have talked to the teacher, it is what it is. But, each night she does it, and each night she completes it. We sign off on it, make sure it is in her bag on Friday for her to turn in, and send her on her way. She got her report card last week. The whole quarter, she never turned in a single homework. Or the projects she worked on (and completed). She gets good marks, loves to read, and practices her math outside of what her teacher asks or is even covering. She participates in class too. So, she isn't suffering. Except, she refuses to turn in her homework. We asked why she is doing this and she won't answer. BTW, she is 8. Is anyone else having homework issues and how are you handling them?

Asked by Michele , 24th Apr Answer this now »
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Kate  24th Apr
apparently my husband also did this when he was in school. His mother tells the story- exactly the same, did the work every night, never turned it in. He wouldnt tell them why. Finally they got it out of him - there was a girl that he liked, he would walk her to her locker and then not have time to go back to his locker (middle school) to get his homework and turn it in. That's it. the whole reason!!

at 8 she may not have a locker, but there may be some other peer pressure or embarassement factor going on as well. Kids that age are super sensitive to their peers (and i think it's worse with girls!)

good luck...
Michele,
We have been thru the same thing with our daughter (who's now 18). I can't tell you how much grief we've had over the years. Please understand that you are NOT alone in this. I thought I was until I started talking to other mothers in our school and at my work. The kids just don't get the connect that you actually have to TURN IN the homework to get the grade. We used to go thru her bookbag every night, and every night, we had the same argument.

What makes it just as infurating (to me, at least) is that the teachers will give them chance after chance after chance. The kids aren't dumb. They've learned that a deadline isn't a deadline anymore and they will stretch it to the nth degree. It really defeats what a parent is trying to teach, imho, which is turn it in ON TIME. And it doesn't stop at grade school either. They're still doing it in high school. My daughter (a junior) has finally gotten some teachers who publish a deadline and stick to it. I have actually told teachers to FAIL my daughter if she didn't turn in the work. That it was perfectly fine with me, because it just MIGHT start to sink in. But they won't. So, we go round and round with the same argument.

No, m'dear...you are NOT alone. Unfortunately...you're not.
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