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How do you deal with an evil co-worker? I was friendly at one time with a girl at work - but due to the fact that her job provides my job with a service( IT) , and she doesnt know HOW to really complete her job, she decided that I was asking to much when I needed software loaded ( due to permissions). Long story short, her lack of knowledge has crippled my ability to do my sales job. So I stopped talking to her, as she did as well. We have ignored eachother for 6+ months now, and the very sight of her makes me sick. She is pretty evil. Constantly reading others emails, she is probably going to read this later by hacking into my computer. Just insane. Anyway. Ignoring works for me, since I have a great job and life. Wondering how you deal with it? BTW, MANAGEMENT is a joke here, complaints pile up about her and nothing is done, considering her salary is so small they cant afford to fire and rehire someone who knows how to do the job. thanks for listening

Asked by DebR , 2nd May Answer this now »
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I have also been super nice to my IT people because they can be so giving...however, my IT people have also been men. I think it is generally difficult to have relationships with other co-workers that are women, unless you are in a position that is clearly head and shoulders about theirs. Being angry and ignoring people in counter productive. If she really is bad at her job, she will eventually be discovered. In the meantime, shift your gears and try to get along with her so that you can get what you want. Feel sorry for her, you will probably be there long after her!
I repectfully want to add caution to the suggestion that you confront her about this. If she is evil as you say, she could make your life a living hell, or come up with some plot to screw up your standing with the company or the staff. Maybe CYA by telling some individuals you can trust ahead of time that you're going to have a talk with her and are concerned about the repercussions? GL!! - Paula.
I agree with Kathy. Talk to her and get it worked out. Acknowledge her feelings about the situation and keep it friendly and non-accusatory. An honest and open conversation may not be easy but it's the only way to get things worked out.
Go to her and explain your frustrations with your work relationship. Tell her if you are frustrated you can only assume she is too. Ask her how SHE think the two of you can resolve this tense situation together.
If you already have permission for the software, and she obviously can't do it, have you thought about doing it yourself? Of what about another IT person, prehaps the head of the IT department?

The agency I work for has only 1-2 IT people and they answer to the statewide IT dept which is overseen by Northup Grumnman (?)(which is called NG for No Go, cause it's caused more problems than it's helped, but that's a whole 'nother story). Those of us who are computer literate do our own updates (tho we've been told not to cause the system will do them - a BIG joke cause it doesn't do them all). I'm the one who makes sure all of the computers in my section are updated and I'm a paralegal, not an IT person.
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