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When you have to leave work early for a kid-related activity or doctor's appointment, do you say that's what you're doing or do you make up another excuse?

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Daisy  Today 19:31
I don't have the option of leaving early because I teach. I have to plan ahead and get a substitute to cover. If I'm gone often, I let the principal know why I'm taking another sick day. If it's just an occasional sick day, it's not an issue.
We have 2 sections in our end of the floor, mine and another. The other has only 2 people, but we all work as 1 and help each other. Anyway, the supervisor of the other section, a divorced man of 54, started making some snotty comments last year about how I seemed to be leaving early a lot. Now, mind you that he's NOT my supervisor at all and my supervisor has kids (so does this other guy) and he split-shifts with his wife when their kids are sick or whatever. My supervisor has NEVER said a word to me. So when the other guy started ragging on me in front of my own co-workers, I went into his office and very firmly but politiely told him that if HE had a problem with me being gone and my own supervisore DIDN'T, then he needed to get over himself, and it really wasn't any of his business in the first place, that I do my work to my supervisor's satisfaction.

Needless to say, I haven't heard another peep out of him. And considering he's got 3 kids himself, tho he is divorced, I was really suprised but I did nip it in the bud.
I'm up-front about it.
I definitely tell them what I'm up to.
I ran across a great article about this very topic recently on a website for parents of kids with Autism, and wrote a bit about it on my website, so I won't rehash it here. But the central point was: You don't need to "make an excuse" - just say "Sorry, I have a conflict" (or maybe "I have a personal appointment") and move on. As the article says "everybody has something".
I used to work in an office with all older guys, one of whom once told me that he found it so "interesting" that I worked because his wife never did. I would sometimes say why I need to leave early but often would make up meetings for work. I hated doing it but it was a way to keep things smooth at the office.
Actually, I think people in my office are more understanding if its for my son than if it's for me. I typically end up rescheduling my own doctor appts several times, but rarely reschedule for my son.
Ditto JDaffron - I just say that I have an appointment and let them know in advance. Ask someone in HR for sure, but I think there are laws protecting your privacy and they really aren't supposed to ask what it's for.
Niki D  9th May
Ditto JDaffron.
I send my itinerary to my boss a month at a time, and I just note it on there. Today, as a matter of fact, I have a Mother's day luncheon at school, and I put it on there.
My boss and 2 of the 3 district managers have kids, and we all have to take a little time here and there to get things done. We just make sure all our ducks are in a row before we go.
As long as I have my work done, I just let my boss and my project team know that I will be out and put it on my calendar.
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