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Does anyone else get tired of people assuming that all working moms would eventually like to become stay at home moms? I get this all the time. I love my job as a special education teacher...I really feel it's what I'm called to do and that I would be doing lots of children an injustice if I ever quit. Why is it that people see that being a working mom is a burden that we all eventually work towards overcoming?”

Asked by picturehappymommy on 18th May 2008 | 3 replies

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haha yes, i have had people assume that i would want to stay home. And sometime i wonder if i would like it, but it certainly isnt my goal! i have career aspirations and i dont understand why that's seen as a bad thing a lot of times? Plus, my son loves his daycare and his friends and teachers, why would i distrupt that? i also think it is fine to do what you feel called to do - if you feel strongly that YOU should stay home with your children then YES do it! absolutely! just dont force me into your mold - i am not you... lol

Flag as inappropriate Posted by Kate on 19th May 2008
YES! They feel that if we're choosing to work, we're choosing work over our kids and aren't good mothers. I get tired of how it's ok when a father wants to work, but it isn't if the mother chooses to work instead of stay at home. I think we actually have the best of both worlds.

Flag as inappropriate Posted by Dr. Carrie on 18th May 2008
Quite frankly, I think some people who have that type of condoscending attitude are more often than not secretly jealous that it's not THEM that's working. And that their condoscension is a hidden attempt to bring us DOWN to their level. Think about the Stepford moms... They're SO brainwashed that they're actually blind to the point that they're so transparent.

I was a SAHM for 3 1/2 years...NOT for my child, but for ME. I did it for me, so that I could recouperate from the stress of my parents' illnesses and subsequent deaths. I needed a break and I was able to take it to get myself back together. I did not do it for my husband, nor my daughter. I did it for ME. And when I was ready to go back to work, I did and I still am working, and will remain so until I retire. Now, call me selfish if you want, but considering what I'd been through, I couldn't even begin to take care of someone else until I took care of ME first. That's one of the biggest things about caregiving, particuarly long distance.

So when one of the Stepford Moms start in with the attitude, I simply look at her and sweetly say, "It must be SO wonderful to be SO perfect. The rest of the real human race would love to know your secret."

Stops them dead and that's the last I hear.

Flag as inappropriate Posted by JDaffron on 18th May 2008