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Am I selfish? My husband is a teacher and is coming up to 6 weeks off work, I work part time in the evenings and care for my child full time and to be honest the terrible 2's are killing me! My husband has offered for me to take some days away for myself but I would feel so guilty leaving him to do everything. What would you other ladies do in my situation?”

Asked by uk shoegal on 12th July 2008

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Take off! The rest will do you good. He's willing to send you off for R and R? Good for him; go, mom, go!

Flag as inappropriate Posted by Daisy on 19th July 2008
Definitely do it - why not??? If you think he is capable of taking care of your kids then you should take advantage of it and forget about your guilt!

Flag as inappropriate Posted by Victoria on 13th July 2008
You are lucky. You have a husband that sees you need a break! My husband could care less. I don't work outside the home. I never get a day off or get to sleep in. I can't even go to the gyn without finding a sitter!

I so desperately need time away. I need time to breathe. i don't have that opportunity. You do. Take it. Pamper yourself and get revived. You'll be a better wife for it and a better mother. It is important to keep your identity and sense of self.

Guilt is normal. You feel like you have to provide the care. If you don't you're not doing our job. You are. If you take care of yourself you are taking care of them. If you are run down they will pick up on it. The family will suffer from it. It's so great that you are dedicated to them. It shows that you are a wonderful person. Now go and treat yourself like a wonderful person.

Flag as inappropriate Posted by jenns1125 on 13th July 2008
Think of it as bonding time with dad for your little one. Everyone needs a break - take it and enjoy. Realize that you have a great husband and that you will be a happier mom after getting some me time.

Flag as inappropriate Posted by Stacey S on 13th July 2008
Thank you ladies so much for all your support i've only just joined this group and your responces have made me feel loads better - just of to see if I can find a spa break for a couple of nights!

Thanks again Gemma x

Flag as inappropriate Posted by uk shoegal on 12th July 2008
Nataly,
I do it once or 2x a year and have no regrets at all. I figure I've earned that time and why shouldn't he stay with the kids? He helped create them after all. Why on earth would you even feel guilty??? That's something I'll NEVER understand.

In the past years, because hubby was in retail, we'd go to the beach for a couple of days. Only I would go down a few days early BY MYSELF and have a beachfront room BY MYSELF, then he would come down later. It was WONDERFUL.

But the ability to go off BY YOURSELF, without him and the kids, is something that NO WOMAN should EVER feel guilty about in the least. Think about this for a moment. Would HE feel guilty going off? If hel's like most men, the answer is NO. So WHY should you or me, or any other woman? I don't get it and never will. I use that time to recharge. It's MY TIME and no one has the right to tell me I don't have a right to it.

Guilty? - heck NO.

Flag as inappropriate Posted by JDaffron on 12th July 2008
I think you should do it. But wanted to tell you that my husband has offered me to do this many times and I feel too guilty. I know it's silly. I really do and I want someone like you to do it and come back and tell me how great it was for everyone!

Flag as inappropriate Posted by Nataly on 12th July 2008
TAKE HIM UP ON HIS OFFER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

This is a DEFINITE NO BRAINER!

My God! Wake up!!! You've got a wonderful husband who sees you need relief!!!

GO FOR IT AND DON'T LOOK BACK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Flag as inappropriate Posted by JDaffron on 12th July 2008