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It brought us closer, but I think it is partly because having a child made us a real family. We depend on each other for support and encouragement. The physical part can come and go, but the connection for us is stronger than it was before we had our son.

I have found that we have good days and bad days, just like before we had kids. But all in all we have grown closer, since we really have to fight to get time to ourselves. And then we really make the best of it. My kids are still young and I figured once they get older we will have more free time for each other. Until then we do what we can to keep close and communicate and stay strong together.

I have found that we have good days and bad days, just like before we had kids. But all in all we have grown closer, since we really have to fight to get time to ourselves. And then we really make the best of it. My kids are still young and I figured once they get older we will have more free time for each other. Until then we do what we can to keep close and communicate and stay strong together.

Definitely took a turn for the worse. People used to ask us all the time "How do you deal with the cultural differences?" (I`m Canadian, he`s Guatemalan) and we could honestly say that it just wasn`t an issue. As soon as our first son was born though . . . man, did those cultural issues leap up! We started fighting all the time and before we even had a grip on parenthood, I was pregnant again and since I`d had an absolutely HORRIBLE pregnancy and birth the first time around and our son was still struggling with birth defects . . . I was not happy and blamed my husband for getting me pregnant (like it doesn`t take two!). Anyway. My kids are 2 and 1 now and things are a bit better. We still fight a lot more than ever before, but we are finally finding our groove with balancing parenthood and couplehood.

I think for some couples a child brings them together and for some a child can cause a great deal of stress. My relationship with my husband when my first was born was very hard for the first two years.
We waited three years to have our first child. When we were childless we would go out and stay out late, come and go as we pleased and all my attention went to my husband(which he loved).

When our son was born the attention went to my son who had a little rough start, so I focused so much on my son and was extremely protective of our baby. My husband was a deer caught in headlights. Some men handle babies with great ease and some are scared big time. Mine was scared big time.

It's only been the past year and one more child that my husband has stepped into fatherhood with the comfort and ease I was wishing for. My anger has disappeared and now we support each other tremendously.

The first year of my sons life I was working mom and commuted(3hrs a day) and he worked from home. He always wanted to go out on the weekends and I missed my son so much during the week, I wanted to stay home to be with him and from exhaustion.

Now we are both home and make a point of spending quality time together and go out at least every other week. I think it is sooooooooo important to take the time to reconnect by yourselves and laugh together.

My mother and sister always said the first fews years when you have babies are the hardest on a marriage. I lived through it and yes it is hard but remember what you had before and try and get some of that back.

Personally speaking marriage is really really hard work...it's work. :)) Best of luck to you.