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When you pick up your kids from school, are they into talking to you about their day? I find that my daughter -- who is 4 -- doesn't really like when I bug her with how was your day, but later, in the evening, might break out into this entire story about what happened at school. Normal?”

Asked by Nataly on 11th September 2008

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Well of course I think that's normal. She speaks when she is comfortable.
My son, 4, breaks out in the morning when I am getting ready for work. I try to talk to him in the evening. He just does not. Then in the morning he tells me stories about the teacher, students, etc. The worst part is that I don't have time to listen to him in the morning. I can only listen to him in the evening. So I hate to do it, but sometimes I feel that I have to cut him off. Then when I try to talk to him in the evening he rarely cooperates.

Flag as inappropriate by Vera Babayeva on 14th September 2008
I have to ask my son and sometimes pry unless something extraordinary happened. He's 7.

Flag as inappropriate by Uhura on 14th September 2008
My son does not offer up anything. I always ask "what was your favorite part of school today?" That is the only time I get an answer. Today he said it was "snack time" I tried asking "how was school today?" and all I got was "good" and then one day I said " there had to have been a favorite part of the day!" That's when he opened up.

Flag as inappropriate by mo2 on 12th September 2008
Yeah, that's normal for my 4 year old. She does the same thing.It seems she rather get home first then have a snack. after her snack she talks about her day in school. It seems she would rather settle in first. Don't worry she'll tell you when she is more comfortable after getting out of school.

Flag as inappropriate by PullingmyHairOut on 11th September 2008
True, true. I thought the lackluster responses started as they got older, but my 5 year old, brand new kindergartener gives the standard "I don't remember". MomsReality, great idea, I will give that a try.

Flag as inappropriate by countrygirl0305 on 11th September 2008
I have 2 little girls ages 5 and 8 years of age and I ask them the question "how was school" or "tell me what you learned today" and I usually get the " mom I will tell you later or " I forgot". But when it is time for bed, that is when they both decide to tell me about there entire day from school to there afterschool activity. How convienant is that for them, they are trying to stay up a little longer.

Flag as inappropriate by Bibi M. on 11th September 2008
Noooo! I always ask how their day went? Ok! That's it! They won't tell you anymore. I will agree with MomsReality, I will try her idea. By the way, my son is 11 years old.

Flag as inappropriate by Yvonne on 11th September 2008
ooh i will have to snag that idea! my son is 2 and i have found if i prompt with things i know he did like 'did you have water play today?" or 'did you go outside today" and ask who he played with i get more info/stories. btw, this also works with husbands that like to answer with 'yeah, it was a good day.' which tells you nothing! lol

Flag as inappropriate by Kate on 11th September 2008
Yep, pretty normal. I learned to ask a question like "What was your favorite thing you did/ part of the day?" And then follow up with something from my day or vice versa. (I confess, I didn't come to that on my own - another mom gave me that tactic!)

Flag as inappropriate by MomsReality on 11th September 2008