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How much do you talk about work with your spouse or partner?”

Asked by Work It, Mom! Team on 29th October 2007

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Lately I feel like that is all we talk about. I too agree that getting to discuss your day and get your spouses support or opinions really does help reduce the stress. But sometimes it gets to consuming when you have stressfull jobs.

Flag as inappropriate by Susan on 1st November 2007
My husband and I work for the same company, in the same field, in different departments, and we have for more than a decade now. We end of talking about work more often than I'd like, but, on the other hand, it's nice to be able to grab a cup of coffee with him at the office and discuss something that's on our minds (Hmmm, that makes it sound like we share a mind, too, doesn't it?).

Flag as inappropriate by Lylah M. Alphonse on 29th October 2007
He talks about his day much more than I do. I sometimes talk work outside of the workplace, but I really like to leave my job (physically & mentally) at the end of the day

Flag as inappropriate by Ashley on 29th October 2007
When I was in finance, we almost never talked about my job - I couldn't stand it and didn't want to bring it home. We also didn't talk about my husband's work too much - unless there was something interesting or urgent - and I really liked not talking about work at home.

I still try not to talk about work at home too much, but it happens more now that I am running my own company - it's all more personal, more important, so I share it. I have to admit that when I talk about something stressful re work I find that it transfers the stress to my husband - he is good about sharing it:) - but I am not sure it's great for us.

Flag as inappropriate by Nataly on 29th October 2007
I talk to him a lot. About my paying job and my entrepreneur job. He's very black and white (as most men are) and as I tend to be all touchy feely, he goes straight to the heart of things, and while 99% of the time I don't take his advice, 100% of the time he gives me food for thought that helps me make better decisions. I love hearing about his job, though - he's an internal investigator - investigates embezzlement, theft, etc. and mainly does interrogations. But he thinks it's pretty boring & doesn't give me many details. Drives me crazy.

Flag as inappropriate by Shannon B. on 29th October 2007
Not much, since he has enough stress with his job! We talk about kids/family money and future plans more than anything.

Flag as inappropriate by JeanineT on 29th October 2007
Not much, he doesnt get what i do. but i do hear about and get all kinds of low down on HIS job - he likes to talk and i like to listen so it works!

Flag as inappropriate by Kate on 29th October 2007
Quite a bit, but only because we enjoy each other's area of work (I am an historian working as an academic editor and he is an architect). I like to hear about his projects, and he likes to talk about whatever subject I am working on. I like to repeat the outrageous things the people at work say-- the people there are unintentionally very funny. My husband's work is very stressful and he often gets sucked deeply into the business of architecture rather than the art of it. I see it as my job to remind him that he is an artist.

Flag as inappropriate by KatieK on 29th October 2007
I'm an accountant, and my husband is a graphic designer/illustrator, so the work we do doesn't have much in common. But we do talk about work quite a lot; mostly, it's about the workPLACE, since we spend more time there than we do with the family. We talk about projects we're working on, organizational policies and procedures, and managing our relationships with co-workers. Sometimes one of us can help the other out with an issue at work, and other times we provide a sounding board or just a place to vent. One of the things I've most appreciated about being married again is having someone to hash over the day with, and that usually includes talking about work.

Flag as inappropriate by Florinda Pendley Vasquez on 29th October 2007
Just enough to drive him crazy. We actually use venting/talking about work with one another as our stress reducer. Kind of like home-therapy.

Flag as inappropriate by The Tattooed Mommie on 29th October 2007
TOO MUCH! For one, we work together often so we have to talk about it. That's not so bad. It's having to hear the same old complaints of his work/coworkers/etc that gets old but who else can he complain to? when it comes to working together, though, I love it.

Flag as inappropriate by Mandy Nelson - Dandysound on 29th October 2007