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I'm completely with Nataly on this one - hubby then me. I feel like I'm always 'on' for both the kids and work and then there is so little left to share. I'm working on ways to make that better, though, and hopefully I'll make some progress in the next month. I'm setting the plan in motion today, as a matter of fact!

It varies between them all -- which, I suppose, is balance of a sort, right? In fact, I think it's the best we can do: you really CAN'T have it all, there are always compromises required, but I suspect that whenever you're feeling guilty about NOT giving time to husband, child(ren), work, or self, it's because you ARE giving lots of time to a different one of the four. So, if you rotate your guilt, you're probably rotating your attention -- and that's good, right?

I think it probably is!

I hate to say this but lately work is coming forst. I need to make sure I have more family time. My Daughter is at school all day, so when she is home in the evenings, I try my best to spend time with her. My husband is also busy and, for now it is working for both of us. I always put myself last...but i have been making sure that i stick to an exercise routine 5 days a week. I have a exercise partner and she ignores my excuses not to make it, and stays on me to take that time to get in shape. I think I need to make time to reschedule how my life is currently operating, so taht I have some breathing room and more quality time with my family.

Work! I decided a long time ago that my priority was my connection with my kids. I have never felt emotional regret for missing something with work as profoundly as missing out on something with the kids.
If I am juggling...the kids come up to the top priority level without hesitation for me.

Any or all, it depends on the day of the week! :-) Lately, it's probably work that suffers the most, though. My husband will usually let me know if he thinks it's him :-). But I don't think it's the kids...since my stepkids are with us part-time and their dad takes the lead with them, I don't think they're too deprived.