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As a working mom, do you ever feel like you're failing in some aspect of your life?
Asked by Work It, Mom! Team, 7th Nov 07 Answer this now »
Showing 30 replies to this question
Vera Babayeva 27th Jul
Of
course.
But
I
just
keep
doing
what
I
do.
I
know
that
I
couldn't
live
my
life
without
working
or
without
having
a
family.
I
want
it
all.
Non Toxic Mom 12th Nov 07
Wow,
so
many
of
us
have
had
too
many
moments
of
feeling
like
failures.
It
is
difficult
to
balance
life.
I
like
what
Mandy
said
about
putting
things
into
perspective.
I
struggle
because
I
take
on
too
much...that's
for
sure.
I'm
going
to
stay
positive
like
her
and
move
forward.
MarcomMom 12th Nov 07
Sometimes,
a
feeling
of
failure
is
due
to
my
own
unrealistic
expectations.
I
have
Type-A
tendencies.
As
a
result,
I
battle
that
feeling
often
-
even
when
I'm
succeeding!
My
son
is
now
18
months,
so
as
I've
gained
experience
and
confidence
as
a
mother,
I've
come
to
terms
with
what
is
"good
enough"
when
dealing
with
what's
on
my
plate.
If
it's
not
related
to
a
human
(my
husband,
my
son,
myself),
then
it
can
be
completed
in
a
"good
enough"
manner.
I'd
never
admit
that
to
work,
of
course.
That said, since I'm a borderline perfectionist anyway, my good enough is often someone else's great. I just need to remind myself that I'm doing the best I can, and the stress I experience is due to the pressure I put on myself. At the end of the day, it all works out.
alanaransley 9th Nov 07
I
feel
that
way
all
the
time.
I
don't
get
to
go
and
volunteer
in
my
son's
classroom,
we
don't
get
to
do
certain
after-school
activities,
he
doesn't
get
to
ride
the
bus
home
every
day,
and
instead
has
to
stay
for
after-school
care.
I
also
feel
guilty
when
I
choose
to
sit
down
and
read
for
a
while
rather
than
play
with
my
son.
I'm
a
teacher,
so
when
I
get
home
from
work,
all
I
want
is
quiet,
and
to
not
have
to
talk
for
a
while.
That's
hard,
because
my
son
wants
to
share
every
minute
detail
of
his
day,
and
wants
me
to
play
with
him.
Trying
to
do
that,
keep
up
with
the
house,
and
taking
time
for
myself
all
at
the
same
time
is
something
that
I
feel
I
am
failing
at
miserably.
Daisy 9th Nov 07
Failure
is
inevitable:
it's
how
we
deal
with
it
that
really
counts.
A
good
friend
and
mentor
once
told
me
"Stop
beating
yourself
up
for
being
human."
Mistakes
are
part
of
the
growth
process.
rmpicard01 9th Nov 07
I
would
not
call
it
"failure."
I
do
so
much
in
both
my
role
as
a
Mom
and
as
an
employee
but
am
sometimes
left
feeling
that
I
do
not
perform
really
well
in
either.
The
reality
is
that
there
is
no
such
thing
as
"balance."
We
all
strive
for
it
and
that's
very
important.
But
it
is
usually
the
case
that
when
we
are
giving
our
all
to
one
of
our
roles,
the
other
roles
suffer.
It's
important
to
accept
that
and
to
be
kind
to
yourself.
I
am
learning
to
be
easier
on
myself
and
I
am
finding
that
it's
extremely
liberating.
PT-LawMom 9th Nov 07
I
don't
know
that
failure
is
the
right
term.
I
often
feel
like
I'm
not
giving
my
best
to
any
one
area
of
my
life,
but
I
sure
do
try.
I
think
it's
important
for
us
to
give
ourselves
a
break
and
realize
that
we
cannot
be
everything
to
everyone.
Take
shortcuts
(like
buying
premade
meals
or
hiring
a
housecleaner)
so
that
you
can
spend
quality
time
with
the
ones
you
love
or
focus
on
an
important
career-advancing
project.
I
think
it's
really
important
to
prioritize
and
try
to
do
the
best
you
can
at
what
you
enjoy.
If
the
laundry
falls
by
the
wayside,
who
cares?
mommy2kiera 9th Nov 07
Yes,
I
often
feel
like
I
have
no
time
for
friends.
With
the
daily
grind/routine,
and
family
commitments,
it
seems
impossible
to
fit
them
in.
And
for
that
reason,
I
am
going
out
for
a
girls
night
out
tomorrow
with
a
few
friends,
since
this
is
one
weekend
where
I
am
not
going
someplace
for
family
stuff.
Lilia 9th Nov 07
Failing
to
reestablish
balance
since
I
got
back
to
work...
Somehow
in
a
short
term
things
work,
but
I
still
find
it
difficult
to
adjust
longer
term
planning
to
be
realistic.
It
feels
as
I
have
a
deadline
after
deadline
and
those
are
really
deadly
-
I
can't
get
them
out
of
my
head
when
I
come
home.
And,
when
sometimes
I
manage
to
do
it,
and
be
a
120%
mom,
I
hate
to
wake
up
next
morning
to
face
those
deadlines
again...
Drivetime Mama 8th Nov 07
Often
I'm
discouraged
but
I
don't
usually
feel
like
I'm
failing.
I
have
huge
expectations
of
myself
and
have
to
deal
with
the
consequences
of
that.
I
remind
myself
how
fortunate
I
am
to
have
the
life
I
live
and
the
work
I
do
in
my
business.
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