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Did you ever feel torn between work and home while on maternity leave??? How soon after your child was born did you start thinking about work?”





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  • I felt a torn feeling that I didn't expect. I had planned on being a full time SAHM. But soon after my daughter was born I started feeling guilty for not contributing to our household income (our hospital bills were much higher than expected). I mostly just had to deal with that feeling, because I was in no shape to jump up and find a job. I'm really glad that I ended up with a happy medium and am able to work from home.

    Flag as inappropriate Posted by mamajama on 18th November 2007

  • I don't feel torn at all. I know I don't want to go back to work, and December 17th is looming on the horizon. I know I have to finish this school year, because if I don't, I could get my teaching certificate pulled, and have to pay back some of the days I've gotten. Being off has given me time to figure out what it is that I really want to do, and I have decided that this will be my last year of teaching. I don't enjoy it, so why punish myself? I've decided to study to be a childbirth educator, and my OB is being very supportive of that decision. Knowing that I only have to finish this school year does make it better, but it still will be incredibly hard to leave my daughter.

    Flag as inappropriate Posted by alanaransley on 18th November 2007

  • Great question! when i was home i thought i could never go back! i was so nervous my first day back. until i walked into my office. and then i let out a sigh of relief - i knew this was where i wanted to be! i was THRILLED to be back! I realized that i had been so busy being worried that i would hate working, i never left room for thinking i would still love it :)

    Flag as inappropriate Posted by Kate on 16th November 2007

  • Oh yes. The first few weeks I was off work I missed it so much, being with other people. Now I feel torn between work and home so much more though. I miss my baby so much when I am at work and sometimes find it hard to concentrate when I am there because I am thinking about him and how he is doing. I can not call the babysitter anymore because it stresses me out so bad if I can hear him fussing or crying.

    Flag as inappropriate Posted by juliehoogenboom on 15th November 2007

  • Yes, I was horribly torn. I liked my job and hadn't considered not going back before my first child was born, but while I was on maternity leave, I couldn't imagine leaving her every day... It's something I've struggled with ever since too.

    Flag as inappropriate Posted by Deb - Mom of 3 Girls on 15th November 2007

  • No, I never felt torn. My boss was very supportive and I knew my work would be waiting for me when I got back. I didn't even think about work until the last few weeks of maternity leave. After my second child was born, I was already thinking about leaving the company, so my only concern was whether to go back. I did and it took another year before I finally got up the courage to step out on my own.

    Flag as inappropriate Posted by Cara on 15th November 2007

  • I didn't feel torn at all. Maybe I wasn't as invested in my job as I could have been (or as I am now), but I was happy to leave it all behind for 3 months.

    Flag as inappropriate Posted by el-e-e on 15th November 2007

  • I can't say I felt torn exactly but I certainly missed being involved in what was happening at the office when I was on leave.

    Flag as inappropriate Posted by KathyHowe on 15th November 2007

  • This is an excellent question. I experienced only a little bit of that torn feeling because I was determined to avoid that. I have seen it in mom friends of mine, however, and it really made me mad. One colleague spent a lot of her maternity leave doing work at home. I don't think women should have to feel that kind of pressure.

    Flag as inappropriate Posted by Diane on 15th November 2007

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