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My spouce and I are fighting alot since were stuck at home with a infant, any idea on how to make staying at home together more intresting?”

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  • Yes, find a game or something to distract you from the tension, pull out old pictures from the dating years. Be intentional about not wanting to argue. Invite someone over to enjoy the baby with you. Make a decision not to argue, create a fun family memory book together. Get plugged into a church ! A program called MOPS , mothers of pre-schoolers have evenings that are creative and fun for Moms. They watch your child, and you ghetto mingle with other Moms. Send your husband out with the guys, and have fun !

    Flag as inappropriate Posted by BooBoo Kids on 14th November 2012

  • A great (and short) book to look into is "And Baby Makes Three" by John Gottman. It discusses all kinds of ways (including some of those mentionned here) to help your relationship with one another during this difficult time. :)

    Flag as inappropriate Posted by MommaBear on 8th September 2010

  • Thank you! We are both 18 years old so we are still trying to figure everything out. We live with my mother until I am done with schoool so thats one reason we are so agervated with each other.

    Marilia-He has a hobby which is his cars I think its time for me to find something I like to do.

    Jesi-Thank you so much we had a date night saturday while my mother kept our son and it was great just what we needed. And I took your (wink wink) advise and switched it up a little. He is a little immature at time but I think that it's a good thing since he makes me laugh. I will def. email you if I have any other questions.

    Flag as inappropriate Posted by Loren on 30th August 2010

  • I would try to make different hobbies emerge. One of you could start studying an instrument and have some time on their own to practice. Both should have some "private passions", when you can practice a sport or whatever on your own. It helps build a good self estem and have more to talk about. :) Cheers!

    Flag as inappropriate Posted by Marilia on 24th August 2010

  • Sometimes you love someone so much that you can't stand to see their face all of the time. "Absence makes the heart grow fonder." I don't know who originally said that but they were a wise person. You are not "stuck" at home with an infant, you are "blessed" to be able to stay at home with him/her. Fights are very easy to come by when you're both sleep-deprived and hungry and etc. Mood swings are common when your body is readjusting to it's normal estrogen levels. My home-remedy for a fight is to just nod your head and agree... they HATE that! When you don't fight back, they have no fuel for their fire. Also, don't yell at each other, if he's yelling at you, speak to him in a calm, rational tone of voice... it helps calm the situation down and let him know that you are a grown woman and that you will not be yelled at like some little kid. I'm a scorpio, I don't know if YOU know what that means but maybe you guys should spice up the bedroom. Maybe watch a "movie" (wink wink) together or plan a day where you go out to lunch or dinner and have Mommy and Daddy time. It's a must when you've constantly got a baby to look after. Restaurant then romance help keep me and my man from snapping on each other. I hope you and your spouse can fight less and love more because life's too short ( I know, it's cliche) to be mad at each other all of the time. If you need some websites to look at together ;) email me @ GOOD LUCK LOREN!!!

    Flag as inappropriate Posted by Jesi on 23rd August 2010