I have a 6 month old daughter and I have committed to nursing her as long as she wants up to 24 months. I just went back to work about 1 month ago to a brand new job. I took it because there was a great deal of stress with my old boss and it was not a good environment. That, and I got a big raise and my husband is laid off and watching our daughter.
The problem? My commute is 1.5 hours to the new job. Currently I get up at 5:30 am to feed the baby, pass her off to him, pump, and rush out the door. Come home by 6:15, feed the baby and let him put her to bed while I get ready for bed around 9:30.
Since my husband is not working, it makes sense to move, however we are trying to figure out how close we should be. We live in the San Francisco Bay area and my job is in the city. Hence, moving will cost an extra $500-700 more per month to be within 20-30 mins of my job (and further removed from our existing support network). If we live a little further out, my commute would be about an hour, maybe less and we could pay similar rent and still keep our same Dr's, church, etc. We can spare the extra $500-700/month, but really prefer to put that money towards saving for a house (and replenishing those moving costs--about $5000 to move with the deposit for the new place, 1st months rent, movers, etc.). We do have some friends in the city or willing to commute up to support us, but not too many as of right now.
What do you guys think? What would you do? Pay the extra and leave the support network to be really close to the baby or save more and be closer to friends and support, but still sacrifice some time?
The 1.5 hour commute is totally killing me now and is very hard on all of us, but I'd really like to know what other people think, too.”
Asked by MsKirko on 3rd September 2010 |