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I saw the owners of the company that I used to work for.........1 owner an older gentlemen who couldn't stand the other owner wife......stir the pot and egged the other owner into playing with my fellow worker............they started taking business trips, lunches, calling on customers which we inside girls never left the office........this went on for 2yrs..........flowers jewerly.......husband finds out because someone from our office called her husband. No 1 secretary who was mad at cs girl. Owners wife got same phone call........
Divorces flew........even cops came to our office because cs girls husband came with a gun!
#1 Boss still stirred the pot still
#2 Boss had to sell business to #1 Boss to avoid his wife taking it......and it was her daddys business. THey had some special agreement that this would she could not get the business......NOW...........
#2 Boss had bought all of the office concert tickets.........we all went except #2 Boss, he had a revalation that cs girl was not what he wanted.......stopped coming to work,,,,,,,,avoided her like the plague and started dating someone else and married her withing 2 months!
So from what I have seen and had to deal with tears at work, and nutty things RUN LIKE HECK THE OTHER WAY!

As a general rule of thumb, I would always advise against it. However, it does depend on the individual and how thick skinned you are. It also depends on what type of workplace you are in, ie male or female dominated.

i think it all depends on you and him, what both of you want and whether or not it's mutual and if it's not will you all be able to be cordial with one another... there's no way to really know this. you can have a good idea but people can change on you in emotional situations. to some extent your work situations and the people around you are a factor as well. that's standard for any relationship though. i've dated men in the workplace and there's never been any nasty scenes and i don't have any regrets. i say follow your heart you only live once. just do your best to keep your life in balance.

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It depends.

I want to say "No, don't do it," but I met my husband at our office. Granted, we were friends for five years before we started dating, and then we lived together for four years before we got married, and one of us has never been the other's boss, and by the time we started dating we weren't even working in the same department anymore, but still... I'd be kind of a hypocrite if I said "never ever date someone you work with"...

I have not dated anyone that I work with since I got a real job. When I was a teenager I did date my manager at a clothing store - that ended badly seeing as he was 8 yrs older than me. It was completely inappropriate and my mother quit my job for me when she found out we were dating. When I first started working for my current company there was one guy who was interested in dating me. We hung out a few times outside of the office, but ultimately I wasn't interested in dating him. Since we never started dating it wasn't a big deal - I still chat with him everyday - but there for a while I limited my going out to lunch with him (particularly if it would've just been us).

As a general rule, I don't think dating people at work is a particularly good idea. There are some situations when it could be okay. A lot of it would depend on the company you work for and how closely you work with the person. If it is someone I would have to deal with daily, then I wouldn't date them. If it is someone in a completely different department that there is very little "work" contact with, then I would.