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Having been at my current job for five months, I was approached by a recruiter and went on an interview. While I am potentially interested in this new position, I will feel terrible about leaving my current position since they've spent the past five months training me in a new field. And, I've invested a lot of time and energy which may pay off but I won't know that if I leave. I'm very concerned about making a mistake. I'm not a "jumper" and would feel guilty but at the same time, this could be an amazing opportunity. Has anyone else gone through this?”

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  • OK, I'll give you my opinion from both sides of the coin. As a Recruiter, I would be leery if it was that easy to get you to interview for my opportunity after only 5 months in your current position. It would also send all kinds of red flags up in my mind as to your loyalty. If I was so able to lure you away, what's to say that someone else could lure you away from my company.

    From the other perspective, I would question why you would feel the need to interview elsewhere and focus on what's making you so unhappy at this current job. Are you not getting what you hoped from it? Are you looking for something more? Was it not what they promised you? Be honest with yourself about your motives. If this new position will give you more responsibility, better or more interesting projects and of course more money where the current job doesn't offer all of this, then yes, do what you must.

    I guess the main question is what is it you want and what are you looking for? Figure that out first before making any decisions. You may go to this new position and find out the grass was not greener. Figure out what your ultimate goals are and do what you must to position yourself to get there.

    Good luck.

    Flag as inappropriate Posted by Adrienne Graham on 9th March 2008

  • I'll just second what Uhura said.

    Flag as inappropriate Posted by KathyHowe on 20th February 2008

  • Firstly, I think you need to ask yourself why you went on an interview for another job. There must be something at your current job that is not particularly thrilling you. Secondly, the best advice I can give is that you need to check all the facts about this new job and find out what kind of an opportunity it can actually be. From there, once you have all your answers that you know to be accurate, you can compare those to your current job. You will make the best educated decision you can. When you do your true due diligence, you need to stand by your decision and know in your heart and head that you made the right choice.

    Flag as inappropriate Posted by LEMARAIS on 20th February 2008

  • Staying in a position out of guilt can only lead to disappointment. Your only loyalty is to yourself and your career. Make yourself a list of tangible pro and cons for both decisions. Then make a pros and cons list of the intangibles. Things will probably be a whole lot more clear once you collect your thoughts.

    Flag as inappropriate Posted by Uhura on 20th February 2008

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