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Did you suffer from post-partum depression? Do you think having to return to work made it easier or tougher to deal with it?”

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  • I feel that since returning to work my post-partum depression has gotten much worse. When I was at home with my twin girls I was able to keep my house in order, keep my daughters safe, maintain my relationship with my husband and all was right with the world. Since returning to work on the other hand my kids have been nothing but sick, my husband and I argue constantly and my home is a wreck. It has also become much harder for me to concentrate on my job since I'm not sleeping well at night and I am constantly worried about my kids. What is a working mom to do! I can't afford to leave my current position since my husband doesn't make enough money at his company but I feel like I'm losing my sanity. Has anyone else had this issue and found a way to resolve it?

    Flag as inappropriate Posted by Kelli M on 1st April 2011

  • I had PPD for 17 months. My husband suggested I go back to work but since we don't live around any family members, I had no clue who would watch my son and I was worried he was too young for daycare. I did take medication and it did help me. I have a degree in behavioral neuroscience so that helped me a lot in determining what may be "biological" versus "situational" causes of my PPD. I do work now, I run my own business, but I run it from home and my son is in daycare a few days a week. Has it helped? Yes. I really think that people are just plain different in respect to staying home versus going back to work. For me, staying at home with my son was THE hardest job I had ever had in my life! I did it anyway, because it was the best option considering all other factors. Not everyone can be a SAHM just like not everyone can be a WOHM. Find what makes you happy. If you are happy, your children will be happy. There is no right or wrong answer. What worked for your mother or your friend may not work for you. My best advice is to listen to yourself, not society that expects us to do everything. Ignore negative feeback. People love to give their opinions and too often they will be judgemental or nasty because they, themselves, are not happy. So, if you think that going back to work may help with your PPD, give it a shot. I know moms who have/had PPD and going back to work was the best thing for them. Don't feel guilty if that is what works for you. Feel happy knowing you have found what is right for you. I know other moms who decided staying home was the best way to go - they just had to acclimate to the significant changes that come with being a SAHM. I found a very comfortable middle-ground.

    Flag as inappropriate Posted by bgrace75 on 28th February 2008

  • I hit it some what with my son but can't decide if that was it being everything we went through with him. For my daughter I hit it big time. She was extremely colic, terrible acid reflux, cried quite a bit and didn't sleep through the night until 7.5 months. My Dr. game me xanax sp?. I took myself slowly off of it.
    It is not a good feeling and scary. The sleep deprivation can make anyone go bonkers.

    Flag as inappropriate Posted by on 25th February 2008

  • I spent twelve weeks at home with my daughter, and enjoyed every minute of it. Postpartum hit me really hard in the days leading up to going back to work. I planned to leave my daughter with her sitter on the Friday before I went back, and I sobbed from the minute I left her until several hours after I picked her up. I really didn't want to go back to work, and want to change careers. Also, it just seemed so final to me, that I could no longer immerse myself completely in baby things. Going back to work also meant my son had to again stay for after-school care, and we don't get home until late.

    I actually called my OB and got samples of Lexapro. I took it the day I went back to work, but once I got back in the groove, I was fine. I still want to change careers, and am taking steps towards that.

    Flag as inappropriate Posted by alanaransley on 24th February 2008

  • In retrospect, I think that I did have baby blues. Interestingly, I was okay until I went back to work, and the transition back was ... challenging. But, I think this depends on your work environment and mine has some issues. I absolutely DO agree with ancgan that the mind is a very powerful thing, and through (sometimes very) hard work, you can change your perceptions. However, just know that there are other options: counseling, antidepressants, delayed return, lightened work load. The goal is to support you and Baby and family!

    Flag as inappropriate Posted by KC on 24th February 2008

  • i think while not physically at work the thought of going or being there made me not feel very good. however, once actually at work, i felt much better. i think what kate said above makes plenty of sense as i felt the same way and a few years back i remember reading a similar study about work often times these days being less stressful than being at home. at work you don't usually have chores you have to do or have the stresses that you have to deal with sometimes with your family, although, the number of hours we have to work is often one of the causes of stress at home. at work, though, you can also socialize a bit which can help people lift their spirits. i am the type that feels like i can get depressed at times, however, i believe very deeply that the mind is a powerful thing, so i just work on changing my perceptions and thoughts to not get depressed and things like that. i do my best to think of everything i have and look at all of the things i've overcome. i think it's largely perception we think of work as "work" and that has a negative connotation so the thought of it is depressing. this is kind of a good thing though because then once you get there it's not really as bad as you were thinking. on the other hand if work was called "vacation" we might have a better attitude about going there then once we get there if any little thing was wrong we'd be disappointed. does that make sense?

    Flag as inappropriate Posted by ancgan on 23rd February 2008

  • this might sound weird, but i think i was headed in that direction until i returned to work. i liked being home but i felt like i could finally breath again the first time i walked into that office after maternity leave! i think it's the forced strcuture? maybe?

    Flag as inappropriate Posted by Kate on 23rd February 2008