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Did you ever consider being a stay-at-home-mom? It's not something I ever thought I'd want for myself, as I've always been very academic and career minded. But now I find myself wishing I could see my three-month-old son more and seriously considering walking away from my career. It's what I want in the short-term, but I'm not sure it's what I want in the long term. How'd you make the decision to keep working?”

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  • I know that I am exactly the person to raise my children, teach them values, respect, consideration, communication, love, morals & beliefs. I have also taken ECE courses & the first three years of a child's life are the foundation! I work from home, e-mail me any time, I am happy to answer questions

    Flag as inappropriate Posted by 1Northwestmom on 20th September 2011

  • I can't even think about being a SAHM. I spent my whole life at school (got my PhD) and started working 3 years ago. My work is right now the one thing that is keeping me sane. If I stay home, I get board to death and this does make my son happier. He goes to daycare and have a chance to be stimulated a lot more. If I stay home, all I would think about is how much I miss being productive out there and how much I have been left alone while everybody is at work. I also like routines and not having it for the first 7 month that I was home taking care of my son was very difficult.
    Now that I am working, I miss my son a lot and it makes both of us happier when we spend time with each other.

    Flag as inappropriate Posted by Harmony on 12th September 2011

  • I would love to work part-time and spend more time with my son, but right now we are not financially stable enough for me to do that. I don't think I could stay home EVERY DAY, ALL DAY. I like to work, I feel like I'm contributing to the household and society, but I just wish I could have a little more flexability with my work schedule.

    Flag as inappropriate Posted by kari on 2nd September 2011

  • I feel so blessed to stay home, raise my two daughters and make an income. I LOVE what I do. Pray about it and I'm sure you will be able to get your answers you need. All I know is that children are only young once. Capturing those special moments is a blessing. Good luck!

    Flag as inappropriate Posted by MPBAlexandra on 1st September 2011

  • It's a tough decision. My youngest is 2 1/2 (have 3 kids), and even though she is home with my mother, I am still torn when I leave her in the morning. It is the hardest when they are so young, because you know that they are going to need to venture off by the time they are four.

    Ask yourself how important your career is. If you are in an industry that is forgiving and will not penalize you for taking a few years off, then, based on your financial situation, take that time off. If, however, you are in a profession like mine (finance), then try to stay strong. It was much, much harder for me when my daughter was younger. And it was much more emotionally distressing when my older sons were in daycare - until I had them settled into a reliable, trusting environment.

    One side of me says that you will never be able to get this precious time back. The other says to look at your circumstances and try your best to pull the emotions out to assess your situation rationally.

    Good luck. Trust me when I say, most of us have been there!!! Even if you decide to stay at home, there will be days when you want to pull your hair out and wish for childcare!

    Flag as inappropriate Posted by NJMom on 1st September 2011

  • I didn't decide to work out of the house. I feel strongly about being home raising my children, I work from home 2-6 hours a day, I work for a company that offers the best pay plan in the industry.

    Flag as inappropriate Posted by 1Northwestmom on 29th August 2011