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anyone have suggestions for a date night with your hubby? both my hubby and I work fulltime and have a 3 year old. we rarely make time for ourselves”

Asked by Heather on 6th April 2008 | 11 replies

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I am 14 years old... and is willing to help! I will babysit for you! just call 813-453-4434 for more information. ask for Brigette!
Thank you!

Flag as inappropriate Posted by on 25th July 2008
I am 14 years old... and is willing to help! I will babysit for you! just call 813-453-4434 for more information. ask for Brigette!
Thank you!

Flag as inappropriate Posted by on 25th July 2008
I would like to suggest that you & your hubby choose one night a week, that is best for both of you, then maybe see if a babysitter or maybe the Grandparents or relatives would not mind babysitting for a night.

When I lived in New York, my family would help me out. That was great. It is a little harder now for me now as well, so I understand.

Flag as inappropriate Posted by Dahlia on 7th April 2008
We try to do "different" things. Like ice skating, checking out a restaurant we wouldn't normally go to, sharing fondue, even hot springs (which is so not our norm!). We also find ourselves at Borders flipping through cooking or travel books and talking about things that would be fun to try. The main thing is to get out for a few hours... not worry about the kids and not doing things for the kids. Find out who you are... because we are changing all the time and changing TOGETHER is the best option.

Flag as inappropriate Posted by Yes, Mommy has to work today on 7th April 2008
I just had a date with my husband last week...and it went really well. We had dinner at a nice-ish restaurant...nothing that was an arm & a leg pricewise...Then we went to a lounge that specializes in martinis...it was mid-week so we took it easy, only one for me, two for him. The great part about it being mid-week was that the lounge was very low-key and great for talking...we totally reconnected like old friends and had a great time. I don't know if this sounds like something you're both into...I have found that keeping the activity in the "middle of the road" when it comes to likes/dislikes for the both of you is probably the best way for everyone to have fun. I LOVE the spa...but hubby isn't that into it...he'd tolerate it for me...but then I wouldn't feel like we were really on a date. I suggest keeping it simple. HAVE FUN!!

Flag as inappropriate Posted by Sonia415 on 7th April 2008
We recently read a magazine that reviewed all the spas in our area. We picked one that sounded like it had good massages, and booked a "couples massage." It's an hour massage you each get separately but in the same room. Then we went to dinner and made sure to come home early enough that we just didn't fall in bed and start snoring! We did this one other time at a wonderful hotel (a bit more expensive) and after the massages (which were separate this time) we ordered dinner poolside -- by the indoor pool - and we were the only ones there. This makes us feel as if we are on vacation!

Flag as inappropriate Posted by GR8TFUL MOM on 7th April 2008
you can even have a 'date-in' night! Get a movie (netflix comes to mind!) and once the little one is sleeping, pop the popcorn, get a beverage (maybe even an 'adult' beverage!) and watch the movie together on the couch! so much fun and as long as you both commit to not checking blackberries or working while watching, you will actually spend time together and chat about the movie as you are getting ready for bed later that night!

Flag as inappropriate Posted by Kate on 7th April 2008
Last time we had an opportunity to be alone, we went for a coffee and ended up walking around Home Depot. Sounds mundane, but we had a great time! It's fun to spend time like that getting to know each others likes and dislikes. Not lugging three children around gave us the freedom to look at all the cool stuff, dream up where we would plant this, or build that and I even got a romantic kiss while I was testing out the lounger in the patio furniture section!

Flag as inappropriate Posted by MortonPixie on 7th April 2008
I'll just add to this by saying you should make an agreement that you won't talk about the kids! Hubby and I do this and it gives us so much more to talk about, just like we used to!

Flag as inappropriate Posted by Mandy Nelson - Dandysound on 7th April 2008
I suggest a nice restaurant with a great view and dim lights. Relax, enjoy the view and talk about how much you love each other. Then take a walk holding hands. This is romantic and healthy. Hope you have a great night together. I am so excited for you.

Flag as inappropriate Posted by on 7th April 2008
Hi, Heather! We had a great article with 10 interesting (and cheap!) suggestions for date night... Here's the link: http://www.workitmom.com/article-2220

Flag as inappropriate Posted by Lylah M. Alphonse on 7th April 2008