I try to make sure I'm leaving laundry done and house tidy, to lighten his load. I also arrahge for either my Aunt, Grandma or our friend/sitter to "drop in." That way if he needs assistance, he doesn't have to ask.
There's a great book that the girls always read when I'm gone called "Momma always comes home." I talk to them in the morning and at night, and I always get one surprise for them.
I still feel guilty as I always do when someone else is carrying my mommy responsibility, but in the end I try to remember that it really is great for them to get Daddy time and to know that Mommies can go away and things will keep trucking along.
If possible when you get back home tell your husband to take some time himself over the weekend and go golfing. If you pre make a weeks worth of meals that would be a big help to your husband too. As moms do we ever lose the guilt..is it shakeable? I don't know if it is but we do our best. Right? :)))
I was gone 3 nights a couple of weeks ago (which is the longest I've left daddy and 14month old) and I baked a lasagna the day I left. My husband enjoyed his "lasagna diet" very much! LOL I try to do as much ahead of time to help my hubby out so he isn't at his wits end (pre-pack lunches, get laundry caught up, etc). That way I feel better thinking that they actually get some play time instead of hubby trying to do both of our home duties.
You know, Nataly, I can't seem to shake that guilt either. It helps to think of the extra "Daddy time" my kids will get.. I do feel this is important. However, I still can't totally shake the feeling that I should be there with them and not far away somewhere else. Fortunately, I don't have to do this often.
I know this doesn't answer your question of how to get rid of the guilt, but I always find it helps to share our common feelings together sometimes and know we're not alone. It somehow always makes me feel a little better to know I'm not the only working mom out there that feels guilty. :)
I'm really interested to see if anyone has some good tips for helping overcome this.
I have 4 business trips coming up in the next 2 weeks, which will, in total, keep me away from home and my daughter for 6 nights and 5 days. I know it's less than many of you frequent business tripping moms, but it's a lot for me lately. And I can't shake the guilt -- of being away from my kiddo and of dumping a ton of stuff on my husband who has a lot going on at work. Any tips? I know they will be totally fine, but I can't shake the guilt.
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There's a great book that the girls always read when I'm gone called "Momma always comes home." I talk to them in the morning and at night, and I always get one surprise for them.
I still feel guilty as I always do when someone else is carrying my mommy responsibility, but in the end I try to remember that it really is great for them to get Daddy time and to know that Mommies can go away and things will keep trucking along.
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I know this doesn't answer your question of how to get rid of the guilt, but I always find it helps to share our common feelings together sometimes and know we're not alone. It somehow always makes me feel a little better to know I'm not the only working mom out there that feels guilty. :)
I'm really interested to see if anyone has some good tips for helping overcome this.
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