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Alright ladies, I have a question for you! My husband and I have a 5 1/2 year old and are wanting to have another one (our son really wants a brother or sister also) but do you think we waited too long? Do you think they will be too far apart in age?”

Asked by traci on 24th July 2008 | 4 replies

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If everyone in the family really wants another baby why would you stop yourself. Especially considering that your older child wants a little brother or sister. I say if you want this you go for it.

Flag as inappropriate Posted by on 27th July 2008
It should be fine . . . it is a big age gap and they probably won`t hang out together much as they get older, but at the same time, it will be SO much easier to deal with a new baby when you don`t have a toddler running around and getting in the way. :) My two youngest sisters are 7 years apart and they still get together (now 16 and 23) to do things, so as adults, your kids will be fine.

Flag as inappropriate Posted by Genesis on 24th July 2008
My kids are exactly 7 years apart, which your could be too if it takes a few months. It works for us. Obviously it is a different relationship than siblings that are 2-3 years apart, but they do enjoy each other & the older one is a helper. The little one is so proud when he can do big-kid things.. Just be aware that you are doing it all over again. . .forever, not just the baby stage. You'll be going to baseball games and band concerts for one, and then when he's in college, you'll still be doing it for the other. My sister and I are 8 years apart, and my mom has talked about how she feels like she's been raising kids f-o-r-e-v-e-r. And basically, it has been for her because I am 30 and my sister still lives at home and will finish college this year.

Flag as inappropriate Posted by allyson on 24th July 2008
I actually know people who think 5-6 years apart is the perfect age difference between kids. The older one is less jealous and tends to be actually helpful with the new baby. Regardless, if you all want to have another child, then it shouldn't matter what the age difference is. Good luck!

Flag as inappropriate Posted by Victoria on 24th July 2008