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Why is marriage so hard? Would you marry him again?”

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  • Marriage is hard because of so many ups and downs.I like to use the example of - Marriage being the amusement park and the rides being the good times ,but getting back inline is the bad times.You know those line that from this point 45min wait. Stuck in an amusement park till death do you part. Being single is the Express Line. I would marry her again, but when I am so old it really would matter.

    Flag as inappropriate Posted by Sean on 3rd February 2012

  • wow! you guys sound like you have great outlooks on life and marriage! i am not sure i want to answer honestly! lol! i love my husband and he is a good dad, but i dont know if i would get married again. We have had a lot of ups and downs and things are pretty even keel right now, thank goodness! Maybe it's because we are both so strong willed and stubborn! But really I think we had different ideas of what married life should be and we have both changed over time - for the better - but in different directions. that said, i think maybe we are one of those couples that moves away from one another only to find ourselves closer than before. plus, we make pretty cute babies so that's always a bonus! :)

    Flag as inappropriate Posted by Kate on 4th October 2007

  • I love my husband! There are days that I forget why, but I know that I do. It's remarkable to me since I knew him as a co-worker for years and disliked him for a very long time. I totally get the "thin line between love and hate" because when I did get to know him I fell in love hard and fast! It's not always perfect, but it helps that we have common interests....our three kids. I love him more for evolving into a great dad as well as a great husband.

    Flag as inappropriate Posted by unkeptmomof3 on 4th October 2007

  • Marriage is definitely for the mature. Sometimes you have to make the choice to have a better attitude. However, when I am really having a bad husband reminds me that he is my best friend and that I can lean on him. I love him and appreciate him so much. I would definitely marry him again.

    Flag as inappropriate Posted by JAK on 2nd October 2007

  • Sometimes life is nuts and other times it is fabulous, but I would absolutely marry him again, but this time, I would walk in with a clear expectation of what 'happily ever after' means it means the ups and downs, the "why am I here's" along with the really beautiful moments... it's not a fairy-tale like Cinderella, but it's better because it's mine.

    Flag as inappropriate Posted by Capitolmoms on 1st October 2007

  • HAHA, KatieK has it it right about the center of the universe. Sounds like our relationships are a lot alike, though it often feels we're just starting out, even after 7 1/2 years. Not only would I marry him over again, I would have his children again. There are certainly tough times with marriage but it's all in the communication, too. Often he/she is the only person you have to talk to and it's easy to give them the short end of the stick. We've learned how to tell if we're truly mad at one another or just a situation and that helps often. And if we are mad at one another what will it take to fix it? We don't bother to argue about money b/c it's not worth it. At the same time, we have the same ideas about what our money should be doing and where it should be going. And we don't argue about the kids, at least not yet, b/c we're both learning. We do argue, don't get me wrong, but we do acknowledge that there will be a difference of opinion. It's a balance every day, one I'm grateful to have with this man.

    Flag as inappropriate Posted by Mandy Nelson - Dandysound on 1st October 2007

  • Reading Melissa's post about compromise made me think that the reason my husband and I experience few problems in our marriage is that we consider compromise to be a natural part of interacting with each other. After all, I am at the center of my universe and he is at the center of his-- we look for the win-win result. I think a lot of people believe that to compromise is to lose or be diminished somehow, or that disagreement shouldn't occur and is therefor stressful and "bad". We start out at the point that of course we will disagree, being from separate universes (not to mention different very countries) andthen work up from there.

    Flag as inappropriate Posted by KatieK on 1st October 2007

  • I would marry him again, without a doubt. I think all good things take effort and sometimes that is hard, but it is worth it in the end.

    Flag as inappropriate Posted by Christine on 1st October 2007

  • I think marriage is so hard because it invloves so much compromise. It's hard to find a balance.
    I would marry my husband again...but probably not for the same reasons I married him in the first place.

    Flag as inappropriate Posted by Melissa on 1st October 2007

  • I don't find marriage hard. In all the 20 years since I met my husband, we both have strongly wanted to be together and would do anything for each other. We are on the same wavelength 99.9% of the time, even though we come from opposite sides of the earth and had to learn each other's language. We have been through life threatening illness, near-financial ruin, parenting, career changes, everything.I would marry him again in a heartbeat.

    Flag as inappropriate Posted by KatieK on 30th September 2007

  • I would definitely marry him again! I think we choose our partners in part because of our own issues. Therefore, our significant others are a constant built in challenge for us. That's not to say that our husbands aren't wonderful supportive people. For me, one of the things I love most about my husband is that he calls me on my sh*t. It drives me insane sometimes, but it also helps me be a better person...I wouldn't have it any other way :)

    Flag as inappropriate Posted by mamajama on 30th September 2007